Take solace in the fact that there's no conceivable way it can not be awkward. Though this might not solve everything, it's a good first step." Objectively, it's a weird thing to go after someone who definitely had sex with your best friend. Think of the conversation as a Power Point presentation.
Walk them through your feelings, explain your intentions, and really try to convey that you're not just looking for sex and legitimately can fall in love. tread very, very lightly and acknowledge that what you're doing is a huge social faux pas.
Does Gretchen Weiners have a point about the rules of feminism?
So in your opinion, what are the rules about dating exes?
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!
I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.
Well, me and this guy started sleeping together about two weeks ago and we're crazy about each other. My feeling is that she would be very hurt, but at the same time I don't want to pass up a chance to be with someone who could turn out to be the love of my life, you know?That being said, the first relationship I pursued was not worth it, because I didn't take the time to think if dating my best friend's ex would ruin our friendship. Inferring, by definition, leaves room for interpretation.Before you go sticking your tongue in stray orifices (like her face, ya pervert) talk to your friend and tell him how you feel. Even if it may be uncomfortable, make your desires and intentions known. Wait, is it still kosher to use the term "kosher" when not talking about food blessed by a rabbi?!So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated.I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.
So, maybe your friend is kinda cool with it, but has some reservations. If he’s over her, but will need a few months to be fine with the concept of you two as a couple, try your hardest to give him space.