Dating someone who constantly cancels
’ Unfortunately, we don’t all date for the same reasons.
Some people date because they are genuinely looking for a relationship. Some people date to get laid and they pretend that they want more so that they don’t endanger the possibility of getting laid.
This is why you shouldn’t be so committed to a relationship you don’t have yet because if the ‘feedback’ is ‘Abort mission!
Back away from the target and abort mission’, if you’re too invested, you’ll think ‘Yeah.I love him! And this one time in bandcamp he said he was going to marry me and take me on a cruise!
This leads into the interim stage where you date some more and continue the discovery, which can lead into a loving relationship.
If you enter at the beginning, jump straight into bed or sexual contact and decide you’re in a loving relationship before it is a loving relationship, you will miss vital clues and information that tell you whether it can be a loving relationship in the first place.
If you do these things as a basic, it won’t be a hardship to do and you’ll filter the information naturally and process the signals.
If you use dating as a discovery phase, even if you do feel attraction, chemistry and have common interests, you’ll seek to discover whether you have shared values.I get asked a lot of questions about dating but I felt the easiest way to start a series of posts addressing dating was to say: You need to go into dating with a reasonable level of trust and self-esteem.Let’s imagine that you go through life and engaging with people that you have just met and don’t know enough about them to know exactly how much you can trust them, it’s best to have reasonable level of trust and increase or roll back accordingly based on your interactions with them. If you imagine that the idea of dating is about discovering other people and seeing how much you ‘click’ and whether you have enough going on to forge a relationship, this period is for you to learn about one another…even if what you learn is bad news.I will answer your question in regards to “getting him to chase you,” but I think it would be worthwhile to do a self-check as to what you’re really after here.When he was pursuing you, you felt like you had control and could choose whether or not you wanted him around. You came back together and over time, things changed.
He gradually started acting differently and as a result, you’re much more interested in him now than you were in the beginning.